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Feel the Noise (2007)
IMDB rating: 2.50
Plot: After a run-in with local thugs, aspiring Harlem rapper Rob (Omarion Grandberry) flees to a place and father (Giancarlo Esposito) he never knew, and finds his salvation in Reggaeton, a spicy blend of hip-hop, reggae and Latin beats. Puerto Rico, the spiritual home of Reggaeton, inspires Rob and his half-brother Javi (Victor Rasuk) to pursue their dream of becoming Reggaeton stars. Together with a dancer named C.C., they learn what it means to stay true to themselves and each other, while overcoming obstacles in love, greed and pride, all culminating in an explosive performance at New York?s Puerto Rican Day Parade.
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Directors: Chomski Alejandro
Actors: Grandberry Omarion,Cruz Luis,Esposito Giancarlo,Rasuk Victor,Duckworth Charles,Flores Carlos,Garcia Alexis Isaac,Garcia John,Howell Norman,James Shydel,Jones Jerome,Lozada Luis,Drama,Music,
How Can I Help Comfort My Soldier?
My boyfriend very recently returned from Iraq. However, he "returned" to where he’s stationed overseas, and not back here in the States yet. He went out with friends last night, something he’s always greatly enjoyed, only to text me, while he was drunk, saying that he wasn’t having fun and he should have just stayed home and talked to me. We text a bit more, and again, he said how uncomfortable he felt being there, and how a few times, he just walked off to sit in a corner to text me, just kind of wanting to be left alone. After being as secluded as he was in Iraq, it wasn’t REALLY surprising to me that he was uncomfortable. He brought it up again this morning, and now that he was sober, he almost seemed more bothered by it.
I’m aware of PTSD and how soldiers often don’t like being in large groups, especially with noise and lots of physical contact. I’m not saying he has PSTD, however, I’m not naive to the triggers, and this problem does worry me. So I immediently looked up ways to help him cope. Unfortunately, all the ways I found to help him were things to do while you’re physically with him (like taking him outside to talk, choosing to go to more relaxed places, letting him pick where to sit, etc…). With him being overseas for a few more months I don’t what I can do to help him from here. I told him to give it time and that it was a huge adjustment back, but I don’t want to say something to upset him, make a big deal out of it and bother him, or say the wrong things. I want so bad to make things better, and being so far away, I’m at a total loss of what I can do for him. Does anyone know any way I could comfort him in this situation?
Any help and suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated!
He always tells me I’m amazing just cause I listen to him, but I always wish I could do more, you know? But if that really is the best I can do for him, I’ll obviously keep doing it.
Like I said, I’d love (and so would he) if we could just do something together, but like I said, he’s in another country right now, so it’s not an option.
I didn’t mean he has PTSD. I know that’s a big deal, and he was never in the situation to see anyone even injured in a minor sense, none the less a SERIOUS injury or fatality. I guess I just worded it wrong. I’m just worried cause the things he was saying were really unlike him. Like I said, personally, it makes SENSE that he (and you "Mistress Mayhem") would want to be left alone a little. I guess I just feel bad that he was so excited for going out, then was unexpectedly disappointed by not having a good time.
I know they change. I’ve had enough friends go through it to know. But it makes me feel like I should be able to do more for him then.
Be supportive and positive when he calls. The best thing you can do sometimes is just listen and let him vent or get things off his chest. Don’t push him for more information. Let him tell you things when it is right for him.
If he seems to get worse suggest that he goes sees the medics.
If this was is first deployment maybe it is just taking him a while to readjust.
http://www.afterdeployment.org/
lconnor65 | Feb 07, 2010
Its sad how people change to war. ermm take him out just you and him. Not in large numbers try take his mind of it. he might enjoy paintball
Toby | Feb 07, 2010
wanting to be alone does not always mean they have PTSD, I watched a press for four months and MWR had a danc efor new years on post and even though I was off for the holiday during my deployment, I did not want to be bothered, I did not have PTSD because I never saw buddies blown up by an IED or went on patols or saw suicide bombers ect. I just wanted to be left alone.
Mistress Mayhem | Feb 07, 2010
Years after I returned from the First Gulf War I came to the realization that Homer’s "The Odyssey" may be a poetic description of what life was like after Odysseus returned home to Ithaca.
If you’re not familiar with "The Odyssey" it’s one of the oldest pieces of recorded literature in human history. The story tells about Odysseus’ seven year journey he is forced to take while trying to get back from the destruction of Troy. His adventures include encounters with The Cyclops, being seduced by The Sirens, and being sent into the underworld by Circe to get advice on how to find his way home.
Early in the journey, Odysseus and his crew encounter the Lotus Eaters, which are people that live on an island and are known for eating a plant which causes them to behave like they are intoxicated. Circe is the equivalent of a modern psychologist which causes people to look deep into themselves to find out why they behave the way they do. Probably, far more importantly, nobody recognizes Odysseus when he first comes home. Needless to say, there are other parallels that combat vets go through.
Every combat vet that I’ve talked to that is familiar with "The Odyssey" has agreed wholeheartedly with this interpretation of the "The Odyssey", including a scholar that is an Iran-Iraq war vet that will be publishing this idea in a book on war fiction. The book will soon be published in Iran.
In addition to recommending that your boyfriend read "The Odyssey" with the above idea in mind, I can also send him, and you, a copy of a stage play that I’m writing with this interpretation in mind. I’m about half way through the first draft, and you can contact me through my avatar if you’re interested or have questions. The stage play is titled "An End To War. An End To Peace."
djlachance | Feb 07, 2010
I’m going through a nearly identical situation with my boy too, so I can definitely understand where you’re coming from on this. I also, because I have so many friends in the military who have been deployed, feel like that means I should be Miss Fix-It and be able to make everything all better! It unfortunately doesn’t work that way. The best thing you can do it just "leave the lines open". I’m sure he knows you’re there for him, so you don’t have to press the subject.
Since you said he was texting you and saying he’d rather be with you, he probably also just misses you like crazy! Think of your favorite thing to do. If you had to pick that, or seeing your boyfriend, you’d probably pick your boyfriend at this point, huh? Haha! Same situation for him!
I think you were right in telling him to "give it time" and it being a huge adjustment back to life before Iraq. It’s true!
I hope things work out! Feel free to message me anytime if you’d like to talk more!
Courtney | Feb 07, 2010
hello,
it might not even be ptsd, he might be developing social phobia, anxiety.
in any case, it is a good thought to have him tested for vitamin or mineral deficiencies.
if the hormone levels in your body are not right, you can feel anxious, irritated, or whatever.
these hormone levels are also influenced by food.
if you want more info, please go the wiki page on Abram Hoffer, orthomolecular therapist.
Angelica | Feb 07, 2010
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